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That attitude is horrible, manipulative and sexist.
It is a well-established fact that women are people. Treating people like objects is the essence of evil.
You've probably hurt a lot of women, and I think you're hurting yourself in the meantime. Stop.
What's the greater evil: my psychopathy, or OP's incel-ism?
Overcoming social anxiety to be able to date is a good end. Does it really matter that one uses evil means when the evil means exist only in my subjective qualia, not in the objective outside world?
I am OP, and I'd rather suffer privately than cause a bunch of other innocent people to suffer for my sake. The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few.
The objective outside world includes a number of women whom you have personally treated as disposable playthings. People get hurt when they're treated that way.
What's the evidence that women are hurt by his nonchalantness?
They're fine enough to sleep with him at least.
Less anxiety in the world is better
"Nonchalantness" is selling it short. Butlerian describes his attitude as psychopathy. That's literally the word he used. He also used the word "evil" and the phrase "women are disposable playthings to me and I have absolutely no concern for their feelings at all beyond the instrumental requirements to get them to sleep with me"
I would have thought that the destructive nature of this approach would be self-evident.
If you'd like proof, though, here's a paper about psychopathy in romantic relationships: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0306624X211049187
And here's a few personal testimonials:
https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/zjuxja/im_tired_of_guys_who_just_want_me_for_sex_and_lie/
https://www.readunwritten.com/2017/01/26/im-tired-guys-wanting-not-wanting-date/
https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1462bbn/guy_just_delivered_my_order_asked_for_my_and/
https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1467tq1/the_goddamn_audacity_of_men/
Psychopathy often causes abundant anxiety in its victims.
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Since the latter isn't an evil at all, whatever else it may be, your psychopathy, almost by default.
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