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I understand the frustration. IdPol issues can be fairly abstract and distant until they afflict your family.
It’s very possible the five-year-old may not be a penis-haver in the near future under the current paradigm.
It’s especially tricky if the parent(s) of the child, as is the case here, is/are supportive of a pathway that you disagree with. The parent(s) has/have greater skin in the game—and ultimately, legal rights. It’s the father’s child after all and it appears he’s supportive of the wars that will come.
On one hand, natural selection. On the other hand, if you abstain from the matter, you may be abdicating your fiduciary responsibilities as an older male family member.
It’s not sudden, if we do a tidbit of extrapolation. Absent social shaming and/or legal grandstanding, 16 to 18 year-old girls would crush 26 to 28 year-old women, much less 36 to 38 year-old women, when it comes to desirability. The classic Dataclysm chart and Bruch & Newman, 2018.
Chris Rock characterised the paternal role as keeping your daughter off the pole.
In recent years I’ve made an effort toward being more “huggy” with family members overall. For younger female family members, it’s implicitly like a “hey, by the way, I and we (other family members) care about you a lot, don’t be a hoe.” For older female members, it’s to say “hey, you’re not invisible! I and we value you. Don’t die.” For younger male family members, it’s like “Okay, men are human doings. However, I and we will always be there for you! Don’t get discouraged.” For older male family members, it’s akin to “Thank you for being there for me and I’ll remember and be there for you. Don’t die.”
And yeah men are generally much stronger and more physically capable than women. Men have the burden of performance, and are hyperagentic compared to the hypoagency of women. Men are playing on Nightmare mode instead of Tutorial mode. However, this should be preaching to the choir.
Hence why MTF transsexuals garner much more skepticism than FTM transsexuals, even from normies. The "trans" culture war for adults is almost entirely about MTF transsexuals. MTF transsexuals are potentially trying to coopt the Wonderfulness, privileges, and protections afforded to women, like stolen valor. Whereas FTM are subscribing to life on a more difficult setting.
Sports, careers, chess, and even bathrooms (full-circle, I suppose) reinforce that maleness is open-league. Young teenage boys beating professional women at sports has long been par for the course.
Young women will hold hands with their girlfriends, elephant-walk, and openly cut in front of men for access to men's restrooms in bars and clubs, but the opposite does not occur. The elephant-parade even serves to garner more male attention. Oh hey there, teehee, us girls need to pee.
As Daniel Tosh joked in the halcyon days of the early 201Xs: "Being an ugly chick is like being a man: You're gonna have to work." The male vs. female experience is only more extreme nowadays, given the Tinderpocalypse and greater feminist/DEI entrenchment in academia, workplaces, and culture.
Hah. If we had a base-9 number system, the whole chart would say 18.
It would say 22, wouldn't it?
We wouldn't have the same terms. but the base-9 equivalent of '10' (the aesthetically satisfyingly number) would occur every 9 numbers.
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