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Old Money has no strict, universally useful meaning. The difference between Old Money and New Money is one of reputation, history, and honor. It is the state at which you don't worry about having cash on hand, because someone somewhere will provide it to you because of who you are. Consider Tolstoy describing such a character and his role in the civil service:
Old Money is when a lack of liquidity, or even obvious wealth, wouldn't stand in the way of one being extended credit, a loan, a job opportunity, a business partnership, a friendship. You know you'll get your money or your favor paid back from such a person, because there is money and power somewhere in the family, or another connection will come through and help him through this rough patch, etc. It is an inevitability that a person such as this will succeed, so by doing them a favor you secure yourself a favor/influence/power in the future from him or his family. This of course is self-perpetuating, when everyone around you is doing you favors you probably succeed, and even if you don't you can borrow from Peter to pay Paul for quite a while before it catches up to you. You know that no matter what happens this person and their family will be around; and the fact that you know it balls-to-bones makes it true. New Money is simply the lack of such a widely-shared social certainty in your wealth's permanence. In God We Trust, all others bring cash.
Obviously this exists on a spectrum, your money isn't Old, or New; it is Old Enough that someone would X or it isn't Old Enough. Your family reputation is large enough that it is known to your interlocutor, or it isn't. The Windsors would be the most extreme example, the closest we get to universal Old Money, so we'll use them for a hypothetical, assuming that I am absolutely certain of the identity of the man I am talking to and no fraud or mistake is possible.
If I ran into Prince William on the Jersey Shore this summer, and he came up to me and said "FiveHour, old chap, I'm a little out of money right now, lost it all in Atlantic City at a craps table I think was crooked, could I borrow $1,000 cash to sort out some things, and give me a ride to the airport, I'll get it all back to you just as soon as I'm in London." I've never met the man in my life, but I would lend him the money without hesitation. Because I'm fairly certain that someone will lend him the money, or that he'll get out of this jam somehow, it's an inevitability, and whoever does will get the little bump of social credit for having done him a solid, and that might as well be me, why let that opportunity to do the heir a favor go to someone else? If the opportunity to lend him $1,000 and give him a ride to the airport were broadly offered, people would be crawling over each other to be the one to provide it.
At a less extreme and more local level, there are family names in my hometown where no local small business would ask for a credit check, where any local contractor would give any payment terms, because even if they didn't pay up you could go to their father/uncle/etc. and get the money. The family patriarch might take it out on the wayward son/nephew/etc.; but there is absolute certainty that you as a vendor will get your money from someone in the family. You might as well do the favor, you'll get your money back and curry favor with the family. That scales up to job offers, business partnerships, college admissions, everything. That is old money.
*The family must act to maintain this reputation, or it dissipates quickly, one dissolute cousin can tank the reputation of the whole clan. You have to be committed as a family to spending resources to prop up weaker members, getting them jobs or lending them resources, and those weaker members themselves can't be too dissolute or they will burn through reputation faster than stronger members can build it. It's a whole family commitment to respectability, it is rare in today's world but it can still happen in limited circumstances.
There was a (possibly fake) AMA years back on Reddit with an old timer who was in a 1%er biker gang, in answer to a question something like "How do you become a 1%er?" he said "Put a 1%er patch on your jacket, walk into a biker bar where other 1%ers hang out, beat the hell out of anyone who tries to take the patch off you." Nobility, or old money status, is the same way: you declare yourself Old Money and you defend yourself from any allegation that you aren't. When allegations against your family succeed, when someone lends money to your cousin and never gets it back, when they offer your nephew a salesman job and he doesn't deliver on using connections to secure sales, your family loses status. Lose enough status, the whole aura is dissipated.
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