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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 27, 2023

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but generally in American culture genitals mean sex and its taboo to combine children and sex

How do you do toilet training with your kids if genitals mean sex and a taboo with regards to children? Besides, how does the statue with a penis become okay at 10 but not at 6 years old? They are still very much kids right?

I'm confused. Why would toilet training require showing my children other people's genitals? I'm genuinely confused here.

My understanding was that not only showing genitals but just generally talking about them was taboo since culturally genitals mean sex according to the OP. Besides, when I was a small kid I remember peeing together with my dad or older cousins and everyone thought this was pretty normal. We had contests between cousins of who can pee the farthest. It was fun. I didn't start associating genitals with anything other peeing until much later.

Ah, that makes sense. I only have girls myself so I forgot peeing with my dad to learn how to do it without making a mess.

Really, now that I consider that, I think the main taboo is against girls seeing male genitals, and vice versa.

How do you do toilet training with your kids if genitals mean sex and a taboo with regards to children?

Presumably one would not employ a real or photographed demo penis during toilet training. I think keeping the kid's focus on their own penis is good enough. Thankfully, in the Elmo book/video that was popular when my kids were learning how to become civilized, Elmo was not hanging dong.

Besides, how does the statue with a penis become okay at 10 but not at 6 years old? They are still very much kids right?

If we can agree that older kids are better at contextualization than younger kids, I think that answers your question. Anyway, these questions are irrelevant.