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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 27, 2023

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Either the men didn't consider the children to be "of their community", or they knew deep down they lived in a low trust dysfunctional society that wouldn't hold them to account for abdicating their fundamental responsibility as men.

Not a fan of this 'as men' line. Try 'as police officers', or as 'a good person'. I really don't think women should be absolved of such costly responsibilities when they clamor for equality. 'Women can be heroes too'. No, they have to be. Else, the kitchen.

Just because feminism wins in some arenas with its unsustainable social ideas doesn't mean we should cater to all of its delusions. Asymmetry is sometimes better than equality. If we start insisting lady teachers storm doors to stop terrorists, we will get more dead children and teachers. And that will have the disastrous downstream affect of legitimizing more gun control.

Quite a fanciful chain of consequences you've got there. One could hypothesize that a few armed female teachers could curb the problem far more effectively, thereby delegitimizing gun control, if that's what you care about. As Timur nearly said, “It is better to be on hand with one woman than absent with ten men.” Do people who stop school shooters die all that often?

If I trusted the competency of the women in your theoretical plan I might endorse it. I do not.

I believe men's lives as expendable in the defense of women and children is a satisfactory social arrangement, possibly the only sustainable one*, extremely honorable, and probably encoded somewhere in our genes. Has there been any culture in history that demanded something like "Return with your shield or on it" of women? I believe that's probably impossible.

* With the ALOHMNBIDTAI proviso ("All Lessons of History May Now Be Irrelevant Due to AI")

Don't do the 'and children' gambit. Children are innocent, and they've got more QALYs.

This is about the social contract between men and women. I personnally do not care to sacrifice myself for women. Not instinctively, not rationally, not morally. If some 50 year-old stranger with a vagina wants my seat on the lifeboat she better bring more than 'time-honored traditions'.