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I'm pretty far-right when it comes to gender discussions, but it's hard not to basically agree with this response. From men's perspective most women are vapid and a bad investment, but it's very easy to turn it to women's perspective say bad things about men too. It's not fair to simply demand one gender change their behaviors; any lasting resolution would need to come from compromise like somehow reinstituting traditional marriage structures.
But that's not a compromise. The fact that traditional marriage disintegrated basically everywhere in the world that shifted to a service based economy and saw an equalization between men and women's earning potential suggests that it actually requires substantial economic incentives for women to be willing to do it. You can't just go back to men protecting and providing in exchange for sex, chastity, and domestic labor when the value of male protection is nil and women can provide for themselves.
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Why not? Those have been the demands, partially obtained, for years, just going the other way.
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In my experience of current dating culture, having gone from a 2/10 to a 8/10 through a combination of aesthetic considerations and income improvements, I'm definitely of the opinion that the reluctance of women to date sideways/settle is the defining characteristic of the age. The attractive men that women complain about tend to act as they do due to being oversubscribed.
I'm also fairly confident the average guy would be more able to pick/actually date with what he'd consider 'wife material' characteristics than a girl trying to pick for maximal stable marital harmony in her partners.
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