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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   4031 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for February 10, 2023

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Something I tried with an ex was to make the bedroom as comfy cozy a place as possible. Pleasant lighting, nice aromas, some low white noise (thunderstorm sounds are nice), warm, freshly washed bedding, comfortable ambient temperature, pets to cuddle with, and whatever clothing you prefer (i.e. both parties dress for personal comfort rather than dressing up for the other), and put both your personal phones on 'do not disturb' mode.

Then order some food for delivery, set up a TV at the foot of the bed, and just watch a mutually-selected show and enjoy each other's company for the day.

Modify for whatever type of low-key entertainment you prefer.

Also might help to get the erotic implications of the holiday taken care of the day before, so anything that happens the day of is more genuinely spontaneous.

Amazingly, I think that removing the stress of expectations from both parties instead of heaping them on (she's expected to doll up and be sexy, he's expected to pick an expensive/fancy place to eat, he wants to get laid, she wants to be seduced, and you're being judged in comparison to dozens of other couples) makes it more likely to be an enjoyable event for both.

I've had a couple valentines days go sideways because the effort involved actually makes it harder to enjoy things and the heightened stakes make 'failure' feel particularly harsh.

Yep! But thats what makes the day special, rather than routine.

As I recall we put down some towels, also the meal was crepes so not the messiest food ever.

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