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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   3706 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for February 1, 2023

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Caught a girl smiling at me multiple times at the grocery store.

Is this common? This has never happened to me. I thought it only happened in movies.

I have noticed it happen maybe 4-5 times in my entire life. But I wouldn't wager its a common occurrence for the average guy, maybe once in a blue moon.

You've never noticed it happening to you.

On three separate occasions, I've taken a girl out to a restaurant, and afterwards had her comment that the waitress was obviously hitting on me the whole time and that it had been touching/hot/ego boosting that I was focused on her and didn't notice the waitress.

Maybe it's the preselected thing or she just had nre jealousy glasses, but I've never once in my life noticed a waitress hitting on me. So... It's probably happened to you and you had no idea.

Yeah, I've heard those types of comments on rare occasions. I've always been highly skeptical.

But now that I think of it, I have had a strange woman grab my penis, another run her hand down my back, another make a weird comment about wanting to see me naked (when I was a teenager and she was middle aged), and a few compliment my looks. So, you're probably right that I'm only picking up on the obvious stuff. This is all still very rare though.

Maybe it's the preselected thing or she just had nre jealousy glasses

That's what I assumed on most occasions because it came from a girl I was dating.

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