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I disagree and I think I'm not the only one here (source: widely accepted social norms around clothing, nudity and sex).
Whenever this topic comes I'm usually surprised by the number of people who try to make the case that it's not actually a big deal or how confused they are that people would get offended by deepfakes of themselves being created. Personally, if I found out that someone had made fake porn of me or anyone I care about (or distributed actual pictures of them naked/etc), I would immediately go kick their teeth in. I would do this because I would be incandescently furious that someone would do something so flagrantly insulting and disrespectful and then be dumb enough to let me find out about it.
And I know that everyone imagines these kind of things already, but there is a world of difference between imagining and actually producing/sharing a video/picture. In the same way that pretty much everyone is digesting food but I don't want to see it and I definitely don't want it on or near me.
OK, but this reaction is isomorphic to Wahabis going "If another man talked to my wife unchaperoned..."
Just because you were brought up fundamentalist doesn't mean it's objectively acceptable to do violence to people for victimless crimes.
Then it's probably a good thing for me and the Wahabis that we are indifferent to the question of if something is "objectively acceptable" and instead are concerned with what we personally find to be acceptable and the means by which we may align reality to our respective visions.
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What about just getting them fired and banned from using banks?
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I don't think that those norms fundamentally disagree with me, either. If you're someone who has a naked body or has sex, that's all well and good. But to defy the norms is what will get you shamed, because it says something about you. For example, everyone has the capability of being naked in public, but only people who are slutty stupid or crazy would actually do it.
It might just be that the norm exists (don't be overtly sexual in public), and different people, like you or I, will interpret the underlying reasons for it in different ways (you think it's that people should feel some amount of shame for having a sexual side, and I feel that it's just that you should only feel shame if you're not careful enough to keep it concealed except from the right people).
Once again, that's not so different from what I said. I may disagree about "furious that someone would do something so flagrantly insulting and disrespectful". But I also said that part of the shame that comes from having nudes is simply being dumb enough to let other people find out about that they exist. That sounds similar to "and then be dumb enough to let me find out about it".
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