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Hot take: you should've went to the strip club and your superiors were correct in losing esteem for you and being disappointing.
Same logic applies if they asked to go duck hunting or kayaking.
No one should be that pressured to go to shitty corporate social events that they have no interest in. I don't mean to say shame on any boss who wants to do something fun with their subordinates, but the expectation that you go, even if it's something you dislike? Or doing something you might have moral reservations against, as with strip clubs or hunting? And all this to the point of potentially facing genuine consequences to your future prospects if you have the balls to refuse?
As someone who hates alcohol and everything surrounding it, I'm glad this culture is dying, because these things sound like my personal idea of hell. For god's sake, just let me do my job instead of going to a bar during my own free time, please. These events aren't about everyone having a good time, they're about the boss having a good time, and everyone else is partaking in a brown-nosing competition if they don't coincidentally happen to enjoy whatever activity is settled upon.
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"Should", what he "should" have done depends rather heavily on desired outcomes.
Personally I think he did good by showing some spine, toadying is bad for the soul.
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