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I don't think conservatives (or, at least, those of a particularly very religious bent) have nothing to say about family court and alimony and all that per se, but their current solution is probably something like a dead-simple "no divorce allowed" stance. No need for family court when the missus has no ability to file for divorce (or at least without damn good reason).
Even so, how is "abolish family court" supposed to work? How does the concept of family court account for millennial reluctance, outside of "divorce as a setback for men is so scary that it's yet another demotivator for the very-aware millennial?"
I think MRAs were the ones pushing hardest against lopsided alimony and all that, but for as much potential alpha as it has, it's just not been that attractive an idea.
How many prominent conservatives (particularly politicans) openly advocate for getting rid of no-fault divorce?
https://gillespieshields.com/101-facts-about-divorce-in-2021/
If you wanted to give every divorce full due process, do the math how much new courts, lawyers and judges would you need for this gigantic agenda, and how much it will cost.
I don't get your point? No-fault divorce is the most common kind of divorce. When no-fault divorce was introduced, the rate of divorce skyrocketed. No-fault divorce increases the number of divorces, and therefore the amount spent on divorces.
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Feature, not a bug if you are against divorce.
Feature, not a bug if you are a lawyer. Otherwise, I do not see any benefit for anyone.
Increase the cost of X then you get less of X. So if you want divorce to occur less frequently increasing the cost drives down frequency.
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It's hopeless under current conditions, and we have our own methods of ameliorating the problem within our own communities.
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