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I can’t imagine showering less than 40 times a year. Aella is weird and often offputting, but is obviously someone who understands physical presentation. I suppose I believe her when she says she doesn’t smell, but I’m interested how she manages that.
Hygiene is a fun subject. Physical activity and clothing are obviously important, but dirt and genetics seem to matter a lot to your personal experience with it. I have a friend who smelled of mold and BO for years and didn’t seem to understand despite me hinting/outright telling him for the longest time. He almost certainly showered more than Aella but still smelled awful. He eventually had an embarrassing encounter where his coworkers told him frankly how bad he smelled.
I like showers in general; they’re pleasant and being freshly washed helps me feel presentable and confident when I go out. I shower once a day, and feel shlubby if I leave the house without washing up beforehand. That’s mostly psychological, but I get terrible bedhead and it’s obvious if I don’t get it wet. I wash my hair with water every day but only shampoo once a week or so.
3 a day seems high, but I would probably do that many days if drying out my skin and hair wasn’t a concern. Season and exercise will make the average number very. How often do you shampoo and moisturize?
I usually moisturise my face after every shower these days, but I have naturally quite oily skin and never get dry skin on my body regardless of how much I shower. Re: shampooing, I usually shampoo and condition once a day. I have done the "no-poo" thing and it worked insofar as my hair found a natural balance without shampoo and conditioner, but I don't think it actually improved the appearance; it just saved me a few minutes a day, and I missed the pleasant experience of scrubbing my scalp and having my hair smell like strawberries or tea tree or whatever.
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