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Oh, boy.
I am bad at maintaining relationships. Somehow I can't get myself to keep in touch with relatives and friends. The war has made me acutely aware that it's wrong, that it's everyone's last best safety net, but I still prefer to procrastinate instead of writing a "hi how r u" or giving a call.
I feel like my career path has been derailed. I am an awesome tech lead, a passable engineering manager, last year I switched jobs to lean harder into the managerial side and got a very nice raise out of it, but now I wonder if I shouldn't have stayed an IC ten years ago. I would've been an awesome dev with a solid set of hard skills and a much more straightforward path out of Russia.
Finally, I am worried about my legacy. I am old enough to realize that my descendants will be the only lasting mark, and right now I have nothing to brag about. Just when my special needs son grew old enough not to require too much from my wife and we agreed to try again, the war started. I'm afraid that by the time we properly settle down in another country and can afford a second child we will be well into our forties, not the ideal age to have children, especially when we've already had one misfire.
I identify with this so strongly. I wish I was half as good at motivating myself to keep up with everyone's birthdays as I was to keep up with the latest in internet drama.
I should buy a Dutch toilet calendar to force myself to stay on top of birthdays.
Well, that was one I had to Google!
It's amazing to me that my mother-in-law, who barely understands what's going on around her at any point, has every relative and friend's birthday memorized. It has really never occurred to me to become a person who remembers birthdays, but maybe that would be a nice thing to be!
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