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Culture War Roundup for the week of December 12, 2022

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*The weirdest wasn't even a girl I dated, I had a Nigerian study partner in Econ who, in conversation, starts telling me that she wants to marry a blonde guy with blue eyes so she'll have children with pretty eyes and pretty hair, staring at me the whole time. I got just a hint there of what Asians must feel whenever they meet an anime fan.

Have you noticed that most people don't have a particularly strong grasp of genetics? I'm sorry, Nigerian woman, no matter who you marry, your kids will have brown eyes and dark hair.

Now, grandkids are another story, but nobody is going to be thinking that far in advance.

Eh, I think the hair thing is more complicated. Her kids will likely end up moving down the curl spectrum, from a solid 4 to a 3b or even a 2c. Which is a significant "improvement" on balance, if that's what you're looking for.

Though I suspect the various ways that Black women in American media make themselves up confuses the issue considerably for a Black woman from abroad.

Also see the grandmother in the painting "Redemption of Ham"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blanqueamiento?wprov=sfti1

Though I suspect the various ways that Black women in American media make themselves up confuses the issue considerably for a Black woman from abroad.

There's, um, interracial porn where the actors' skin tones are close enough that you wouldn't be able to tell from a close-up shot that it's not just regular porn. I doubt it's full-body make-up. American Blacks are on average significantly lighter than West Africans.

But yeah, getting blue-eyed first-generation descendants would be quite improbable.

I was thinking more of hair relaxing, wigs, extensions, contacts. All fairly common among Black celebrities (of the non porn variety). I can personally say that prior to dating a girl who would leave my Ford explorer smelling like a nice ethnic hair care product, I did not realize how much effort American Black women put into making their hair look vaguely straight. So one might reasonably form unrealistic expectations for what a little mixing will do for hair, and to a lesser extent eyes and skin, from that exposure and lack of context.