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Two things can be true at once. We love children and we think they are inept. We don't love them because they are inept. The two are not causally linked.
I'm not sure where I gave the impression I believed that. Maybe it sounded as if I was saying the ineptness of children was the only reason they're not punished as harshly as adults? Of course adults have instinctual feelings of love and protectiveness towards kids independent of their belief in the children's ineptness, and those are part of it too, but much of the argument against trying them as adults centres on their inability to understand the full consequences of their actions. So, you know, it's both - the "benevolent ageism" in this case stems both from love of children and knowledge of their inferior faculties.
Yes, but even if that were the root for the "benevolent sexism" against women (which really is just a euphemism for special treatment), I don't see how you can twist that around and argue that, no really, this massive perk is actually a disadvantage because...?
It is not like this ostensible presumption of female weakness or inferiority works to their disadvantage anywhere. We are not talking about two sides of one coin here. The argument goes like this:
Women have a clear advantage in one specific field
This advantage is really because of disdain for women
No, I can't point to any instances where this disdain has any negative effects for women
The clear advantage is therefore a disadvantage!
QED women are oppressed
I did say it is beneficial and not oppression (I grant feminists would probably disagree with that assessment) but nonetheless if you are a feminist whose goal is to attain for women the same level of respect afforded to men, having men treat you with kid gloves all the time could be seen as patronising, if indeed it does stem from a lack of faith in your abilities. And a lack of faith in your abilities could lead them to be unwilling to trust you with large amounts of power or responsibility. Even just being seen to receive this treatment could reinforce the notion that you need it and couldn't succeed on your own.
I could believe that the special treatment that women receive is patronizing and demeaning if feminists didn't demand it
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The other crazy thing about 'benevolent sexism' is that it was necessary! How would women feel if, after women joined the workforce, men had treated them like any other men? Apoplectic. We're not even allowed to mention our dick and balls anymore, let alone slap them onto a table to win an argument and impress the senior partners.
People did that…?
edit: i mean i’m rather taking this metaphorically but out of morbid curiosity…did people really do that?
I'm sure someone did at some point, although yeah, I was exaggerating for comedic effect.
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I mean, guys can get up to some wild, wacky, and stupid things sometimes. See also.
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