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I would ask what did you expect? People who call themselves escorts or sex workers instead of prostitutes are going to be very prickly about any perceived slights. "How dare you judge me? How dare you seem to indicate to hint to suggest that whoring is somehow bad? How dare you say that fit/beautiful at any size isn't true? How dare you remind me of the market economics out there, which is that men like curvy women - not too thin and not too fat - and that whoring will only result in a big payout for a small slice of all the women who think that an OnlyFans or going on Craigslist or looking for sugar daddies is a way to make a living?"
It's the stress between trying to overcome their horrible repressive upbringing in the horrible repressive sex-negative society which tells them that being a whore is low-status versus all the political theorising and activism about 'sex work is real work'. And all the theory in the world won't change the realities around sexual attraction and what customers expect from a hired sex provider versus what they would expect in a relationship. It's true for incels - you can't regulate sexual attraction - and it's true for fat women and it's true for prostitutes.
Re: condom use, I have no idea around that except maybe they don't do full penetrative sex, or they can charge more if the customer doesn't want to use a condom. Using condoms with their regular partners makes sense, as they probably don't want to run the risk of infecting their boyfriend, whereas with johns that is just one of the hazards of the job.
Looks like it's less than ten percent of the total, which puts it within the realm of "add lizardman's constant and you get a real statistical outlier that could just be weird because it's a statistical outlier". The other possibility is she got some girls who were not escorts and were sugar babies/paid mistresses/whatever who didn't use condoms because it was an exclusive arrangement.
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