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It's certainly possible that I have anxiety because my life is stressful, but I have to admit I'm quite sceptical of that interpretation. I'm steadily employed at a normal 9-5 office job; I am treated with respect and courtesy by my colleagues; I've never had to work late, overtime or at the weekend; I have no dependents; I'm not wealthy but nor am I struggling to make ends meet; I have good accommodation; and I don't have any health problems. All of these things were true two, three and four years ago, and I know I didn't feel like this at those times.
I'd say you're doing a fairly good bit at coping with it. I mean, you still have the job and the girlfriend.
My life situation is completely crap, basically, got nothing going for me except being physically healthy, not broke and on good terms with my parents.
No anxiety though, no problems relaxing most days.
I did watch Edgerunners and also thought about things in a .. unwise way and couple days after I had half a day of feeling anxious and dreading something undefined, and I noticed how much it sucked. Can't imagine enduring something like that for a month.
One possible piece of advice:
**Try fighting. **
One time a therapist talked me into signing up for a boxing class. Between the punishing 1 hour of aerobics training and subsequent sparring, the entire thing was very relaxing and strangely enjoyable. And I think what was most relaxing was the sparring. I was up against 18 year old guys.. who were mostly at least slightly less new to it, and .. it was fun.
Did hurt a fair bit, but the whole 'physical fight' experience was something I had no idea I was missing. It's quite a lot more .. interesting? than a good mental fight (like e.g. a challenging game ). Like comparing a silent 1920s film to a 1980s action film, or something like that. Or some solid VR experience.
Sadly I had to give that up, I had a prior shoulder injury that kept flaring up because getting pummelled (even not at full force) while blocking blows was just too much for it. I've been meaning to do some strength training as that'd probably make the shoulder more robust, but haven't gotten around to it. And probably never will, knowing myself. Lifting weights seems extremely complex, and knowing I'd have to couple that to eating more to get anything out of it just makes the whole thing seemingly too daunting.
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You're probably right then, just wanted to throw it out there.
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