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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 28, 2022

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Don't marry without trying out the goods first, how can you be sure you'll have a happy marriage if you find out you're not sexually compatible? Without living together, how will you know that you'll get on together? And only one sexual partner in your entire life? You'll regret this later on, you'll be resentful about missing out on all the great experiences you could have had.

This makes intuitive sense but is straight up modern western bullshit and is not borne out by the facts. See this article here: https://marriagefoundation.org.uk/research/does-religion-help-couples-stay-together/

Now research shows that Muslim women are the most likely religious group to be in a long-term, happy relationship.

The report by Marriage Foundation, the think tank dedicated to promoting stable families, is the first ever in the UK to explore the links between religious associations and relationship stability using Millennium Cohort Study data collected from almost 15,000 mothers.

Muslim women were found to favour marriage more than any other religious group. Ninety-four per cent of Muslim women are married compared to only 79 per cent of Christian mothers and 59 per cent of non-religious mothers.

The report rules out the explanation that Muslim women stay with their husband because they are in some way repressed. It finds 31 per cent more Muslim mothers report high relationship happiness compared to non-Muslim mothers.

Sir Paul Coleridge, chair and founder of Marriage Foundation, commented: “These findings are truly startling. It appears at first counter intuitive that Muslim women have such successful relationships when many are in arranged marriages.

“In fact, Muslims in arranged marriages have many of the ingredients for a really successful long term marriage. They enter marriage without artificial and unreal ‘celebrity’ expectations or a belief that they merely have to bump into a perfect partner and from then on no effort will be needed.

“In time the ‘perfect partner’ inevitably disappoints. This group on the other hand have no unreal expectations and from the word go, really work hard and fashion their relationship out of the material they are given.

“Doubtless it is in part a consequence of this that they are over 30 per cent more fulfilled and happy than their western sisters.

Note that is is just comparing between UK women, so it's not like some of the women are in highly repressive societies with little legal recourse if their relationships go bad, everyone being compared here has the same level of legal protection available.

And yet the group that does best long term is one where sleeping around is one of the biggest taboos there is and people only ever cohabit after getting married. The reason behind this is that we have a totally different mindset to what marriage is supposed to be than westerners (e.g. for us it's expected and encouraged for you to change your partner to suit you better and vice versa, while westerners would consider that to be manipulation) and it turns out that our mindset is superior in the long run.

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