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What's the opposite trope here? An all-white family? White father and black mother?
There are obviously plenty of white families in media and entertainment. When it comes to romantic pairings with a white male and a black female, well, the highest-grossing film (in US and globally) in 2021 was the new Spiderman. I haven't seen it, but still, Wikipedia shows that it has a white Spidey (Tom Holland) and black Mary Jane equivalent (Zendaya). The only movie I did see in a movie theater was Dune, which also did pretty good and got both critical appraisal and online appraisal, including from people who would dismiss Spiderman as capeshit; it had white Paul Atreides (Timothée Chalamet) and black Chani (again, Zendaya). If Villeneuve manages to film two more Dune movies, they're eventually going to become a family.
Maybe it really, really is the case that white guys tend to be more sensitive to the pairing you mentioned than the opposite way around? One source I've seen complaining about all these movies where a white guy gets the black girl is Tariq Nasheed; one might also gather he has his particular reasons for being sensitive about movie pairings that are that way round.
Yes.
What movie was he referring to? The last one I saw, funnily enough, was Dear White People.
I don't remember the exact list, I think the Spiderman movie was mentioned. I also recall that either him or some other black nationalist activists made a lot of hay about this movie.
Who remembers that some time ago they made a remake of Guess Who's Coming To Dinner with Aston Kutchner coming to grips with his black girlfriend's dad?
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