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This is just playing defense and trying to ignore all the evidence. What's the purpose of kids' night at a sex toy shop? What's the meaning of "little girls are kinky too"? Why is all "kink" pushed relentlessly at the same time as actual sex is demonized (especially normal heterosexual sex)?
You're doing that typical thing where you tell people to ignore the academics and activists over there, because a majority of leftists don't agree with them (yet). Until recently normie leftists didn't agree that "the idea that there are two distinct opposite sexes is a 19th century colonialist invention," and yet they got on board with it instantly, ignoring any cognitive dissonance that they'd previously spent years spouting "umm actually sex is distinct from gender."
And already in every case where "kink with kids" comes up, leftists have wound up on the pro-kink side with those activists. Why do normie leftists take more issue with a 25yo dating a 22yo than with schools telling 3rd graders to Google leather daddies? Because one is "queer, kinky, and disrupts heteronormativity," while the other is yucky and straight.
Supporting "queer kink with kids" is just the other side of the coin of "problematizing" heterosexual relationships out of existence. The more normal sexuality can be suppressed, the easier all that energy can be sublimated into party-approved "queer culture."
Because one undermines the parent-child relationship and the other one doesn’t. When these people make gaffes and tell us what they really think it’s almost always family abolitionist thought- the same reason they’re inherently skeptical of heterosexual sex.
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