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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 14, 2022

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if you're uncut you require no lube

The silicone used with these toys exhibits enough friction that it doesn't matter.

If you don't lubricate it, it is difficult to impossible to insert against, which just adds more cleanup and complication to what should in theory be a perfectly simple process.

Right but I'm under the impression that uncut folks are already using lube anyway so the jump to toys might not be as much of a pain?

Men don't regularly have these conversations among themselves. I wonder if female masturbation tradecraft is more developed because women actually talk about it whereas men for the most part figure it out like any primate can and go to town for life.

I'm under the impression that uncut folks are already using lube anyway so the jump to toys might not be as much of a pain?

If anything, it'd be the cut folks using lubricant, since they're missing the piece that automatically provides it.

I am not (and don't need it), so needing to use it is inconvenient even though the experience on offer from a toy is strictly better than simple hand motion.

Might be a difference specific to the US, since that's the place with the highest raw (heh) number of circumcisions; but then again I believe people from the US are less likely to purchase these toys for other reasons (their society is far more masculine-leaning than any of their closest competitors), so it might be a wash.

I inverted that, I meant cut folks.