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Thats been my assumption, any girl out doing nightlife stuff has a guaranteed 12+ guys in her phone via dating apps and thus maximum optionality.

If you are male model quality or can flash ridiculous levels of wealth you have an in.

Otherwise, you exist in her life only for the exact amount of time her attention is on you.

You can extend that time a few minutes by buying a drink or whatever, but I suspect there's no magic set of words you can utter in that time that will change anything about her opinion of you she formed in the first 10 seconds.

And of course buying drinks CAN signal you're a mark which the more predatory types of women would simply milk as long as possible.

I am amazed how we've seemingly let the behavior or the "bottom" 20% of social actors poison every single interaction the rest of us have.

any girl out doing nightlife stuff has a guaranteed 12+ guys in her phone via dating apps and thus maximum optionality.

Probably but you have to consider the following:

  • Half of the guys she matches with won't ever message her
  • Half of those who do will open with something like "You have a really nice face but it would look much better smashed up against mine".
  • Half of the ones who don't are incapable of texting anything other than "Hey" or "How's your weekend going?"
  • Half of the ones who are capable of texting aren't capable of maintaining a conversation in real life
  • Half of the ones who actually can maintain a conversation can only do so for about an hour before changing the subject to all the nasty things they want to do to them
  • The remaining 1% or so of men, knowing they're in rarefied air, think they're God's gift to women and act like it.

At least this is the impression that I get based on conversations with attractive women I know who have tried it. And that doesn't even include guys who will text for weeks without asking the girl out. So if you meet someone in a bar you can at least speed run to the final step without being burdened by the inherent douchiness that affects guys who are too successful on dating apps.

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