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I had a terrible month and saw my therapist, I'll be back on track though I've been feeling a little off. My path to getting good at web Dev stuff and math (later ml) is quite long and no one I know irl ever does anything real or cares about it enough. I go out and everyone I meet tries their hardest to seem important.
I'm still doing better, my terrible days still end up with 2-3 hours of focused work, I only log zero if I'm sick and can't get up. Not having friends irl does seem a little wierd to me. I'm a hermit and I really enjoy the satisfaction from a good days work. I'm quite tired right now and it feels great, it means I didn't sit around waste another day of my youth.
India in general is a place where everyone's in a perpetual little league, I do not want to end up that way in the long run. Being isolated feels nice, I get the urge to interact with people and without fail I come back feeling worse about the world around me. People even look at me weird if I tell them that I'm doing math and don't wish to be another soydev.
Even within white collar circles, everyone simply only cares about one upping their colleagues. I've never had a job but I'd be depressed too if I pretended to work all day with toxic co workers. I am quite privileged that my parents allow me as a nearly 25 year old to stay with them and study stuff for better future outcomes but I do get a feeling that most people I know would never do it.
This update is pretty vague, I'm just losing my taste for a lot of things or rather care even less about them. Beyond you folks and some other e friends, everyone I know or meet does fuck all.
Beyond that I also had drama take up some of my mental space. My former oneitis messaged me out of the blue, stating that she met a former friend of mine whose name she didn't reveal. It happened at a party, where this person approached my former oneitis, told her to hat her that she was saying because of me, how I'm a total fucking loser, how I'd go around showing people photos of her and slut shaming her. Etc etc. It wrecked my day since I didn't actually do any of that.
Before I started the whole pickup artistry arc, I was a complete wuss, which is why despite being taller and better looking than average, I never managed to even kiss a girl. I'd tell people about my life quite candidly and even tell them about the girl in question since I was a total chode. My reward for being nice was being as a creepy wierdo.
Now my oneitis and whoever this rested was are irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, they're both strangers so whatever they think is immaterial and I'm not in Delhi but it did sting. I don't go around slut shaming girls but I will avoid talking to ones I'm not hooking up with from now on. That may take a few months but till then I'll try to meditate more to deal with isolation.
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