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Culture War Roundup for the week of February 17, 2025

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If you check the full context...

Of course, neither is full polyamory (which involves knowing your girl is banging other men), but most men would love a relationship where their woman is exclusive to them while they can sleep with other women on the side. I was met with unanimous shock and disagreement. That "I just didn't respect women if I felt this" or accusations that I'm typical minding. But I suspect most men actually do agree with me, and the ones who claim otherwise fall into a two categories 1) Men who are sour graping. That is, they know they couldn't pull off an arrangement like this (which tbf is most men, including me) so pretend they wouldn't want it anyway. 2) Ones who "want" it instinctively but are opposed for religious reasons 3) The few who actually just disagree.

...he's talking about the specific polygyny/harem setup. SJ hates that as a manifestation of patriarchy, hence the reactions he got. Yes, it is also hated by MRAs and secular conservatives, but they hate it for a different reason (specifically, that widespread polygyny leaves a large chunk of men Forever Alone, which MRAs hate in and of itself and secular conservativves notice is a recipe for civil strife).

I will also note that while SJ is not in theory opposed to polyamory-proper, it does tend to attract suspicion that it's a cover for harems or harem-like situations.

Edit: Really, pretty much the only modern ideology that finds it laudable is the more Nietzschean parts of the alt-right (including BAPism). Even most forms of liberalism only tolerate it.