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You're in a rut. You have my sincere sympathies.
Have you applied for other jobs? Just to see what's out there, if there's something that catches your interest or at least pays better? The advantage of applying while you're still employed is that (a) potential employers want you more than your unemployed competition, and (b) your current employer may make you a better offer to keep you. More money, or move you up to management.
The disadvantage is time and effort. Since you're employed and in no hurry, you don't have to put too much effort, just update your resume and start asking around.
(Unless you were just venting... it's ok to vent. In person, I have learned to ask something like: "Are you venting, or do you want to brainstorm solutions?" I have also got good at surrounding myself with people who are chill with those kinds of questions.)
Sorry for the late response, could barely get up the energy to respond to these the past few days. I was partially venting, but also did want to crowdsource solutions.
Regarding your suggestion, I think it's probably the best way forward. My firm really doesn't pay much or offer much in the way of career progression because it's a small/medium size firm (albeit one which poached clients from a larger entity when it branched off from them, so it handles a much wider and more complex array of tasks than your typical small accounting firm), so I know I'll eventually have to move anyway if I want a better deal. The longer I stay here the more pigeonholed I'll be. Moving is just not that easy, especially when you actually like some of your coworkers and have grown somewhat fond of them.
Still, I can't argue against the logic of the decision, and I think if I stay here any longer I'll be a shell of myself.
I hear you and sympathize. Do feel free to rant, no matter what you decide to do. Sometimes a rant is just what's needed to realize that you're not happy with the way things are and are on your way to constructively consider your options.
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