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Wellness Wednesday for January 29, 2025

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Could you just choose to do it?

This is what confuses me about this whole thread. I feel like if went through a year long dry spell I could, more-or-less, shag anything. Strong physical attraction would not at all be a requirement in that case. Assuming no drastic shift in libido on my part, no extreme physical deformities, not morbidly obese, no disturbing fetish stuff. Is it possible that the porn use is actually excessive, and it's killing the ability to perform when it's time to get it on IRL? It seems like it's too late now, but what would have happened if OP just initiated at month 6, then closed their eyes and though of "England"? Is that less healthy than relying on porn 100%?

I feel like if went through a year long dry spell I could, more-or-less, shag anything.

Amen. Been there, shagged that.