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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 31, 2022

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Is that the male pick-up artist's version of "I'm ready to settle down with a good man?"

No. First, because sexual experience increases a man's Sexual Market Value, while it torpedoes a woman's SMV. And, second, because women who say that would happily go on riding the Cock Carousel, except that they are no longer able to (either because they hit The Wall and are getting passed over by their younger peers or because they got pregnant and ended up a single mother who is now looking for a bailout). Whereas a PUA like Roosh could have easily kept pumping and dumping women indefinitely. It seems he genuinely burned out on the hedonic treadmill.

I mean, even if we go by TRP older women can still keep riding the cock carousel. They stop because their other desires and values - security, stability, a partner to raise a kid with - would be compromised.

Roosh also could similarly continue to get laid continually - without the decrease in fertility that a woman would face - but, first off: even he is getting old (at 43). And, if he wants things like a family, he can't just delay forever either. And, if he now wants to switch to women who want relationships, some explanation that mitigates his past might be valuable.

TRP is right about men's particularly strong desire for youth and sexual novelty - perhaps their greatest point is just unapologetically reiterating what were once truisms - but that's not all men want either.