The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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The MOST useful thing was reading “Running on Empty” and “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”. I wish I could make the both books required reading in school lol, but Running on Empty really did change my life. By using example after example to validate my experiences, I was able to start putting names to feelings I’d felt for a long time but had ignored, which led to a proper diagnosis from my doctors that had a road to recovery. Those books, in my opinion, are cheats to life hahaha.
In second place would be the three-month outpatient program for drug addiction that broke down what’s running under the hood when it comes to addiction and learning the H.A.L.T method. H.A.L.T rocks.
Third would be the two short stories “A Short Stay In Hell” and “The Divine Farce”. They were incredibly inspirational to me as stories about the tenacity of the human spirit. Even if I were locked in a small tube with pear juice and shit dripping all over me, I’d still be okay. Helps keep the motivation up when I feel like I’m not making the progress I want to make.
Third would be smoothies. Lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of smoothies, with two scoops of Benefiber. Cold, light foods are a-must when your stomach is a pit of sinking feelings and smoothies can bypass that, at least for me.
Fourth is sobriety of all caffeine, nicotine, marijuana and alcohol. It sucks boo-hoo but it kept my mind clear so I could focus on the problem and more importantly when it was showing it’s ugly head so I could use H.A.L.T. It’s hard to tell if I’m angry or hungry when I’m buzzed.
Fifth is ruthlessly ending friendships and relationships with people I did not feel I could be authentic with. The criteria was, “If I feel like I can’t express my authentic reaction to this person, then I can’t be around them.” Cry about it really bad, then do it. It really, truly is better to be alone than to have bad friends, if nothing else than the boredom of forcing yourself to feel your loneliness will inspire you to move towards making new ones.
I'm going to try reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”.
Ideal Parent Figure guided meditations have been helpful for me.
I truly believe the book is useful for all parenting backgrounds. It’s an excellent warning about the insidious dangers of emotional neglect.
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