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As usual blah blah I don't agree with Scott on most aspects of doctoring.
Therapy works, and it works great, and has a great evidence base. The problem is that unlike medication management and general medical care, it's very hard to tell if you are getting good therapy, or the therapy that is good for you - not only is proficiency level variable, but the match between the therapist and patient is important and that can be hard to manage (classically: a good chunk of men are not going to respond well to the more ooey-gooey therapists)*.
Quality therapy also intends to end, it's not open ended or indefinite.
That said it sounds like you are skeptical, had a bad experience, and aren't necessarily the best type of patient for it (plus the expense).
But it is something to consider in the future if you are not satisfied with where you at or slide a bit.
Alternatively you can use the classic man-therapy type approaches. Sportsball! Teams! Friends! Woodworking! Blah blah.
*Yeah I really don't know what Scott is going on about here. There are absolutely the type of patients who therapy isn't likely to work for but DBT for BPD is well validated, and every therapist I've ever dated (pro-tip: don't date therapists) will endorse patients with radical improvement or development, even if it's just catching a college student who needed to grow up. If Scott isn't ever seeing it work something about his catchment is fucked or he is exaggerating in an unhelpful way.
Fuckin' A, man. Fuckin' A.
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