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I don’t think it’s quite either. After watching vast numbers of successful and apparently sensible men ruin themselves for affairs with not very pretty girls, I’ve honestly started to believe that there is a built-in switch in the male brain that looks around and says, ‘Hmm, we appear to be the alpha around these parts, time to spread the genesSEXSEXSEXSEXSEX!’. Any sufficiently powerful man either has to commit to a rigorous system like Pence or have his brain melted.
I don’t present this as an excuse, quite the opposite. Just an observation.
Women spend their entire lives being hit on by men constantly, they then have to decide who and when to reject vs. accept and have significant training in establishing their boundaries for these things.
Many men spend their entire lives without being hit on without them initiating to the point that they will continue to flirt when it isn't acceptable to do so (because they are in a relationship, old, power dynamics and so on) because they don't expect it go anywhere.
If it does get reciprocated or it comes out of nowhere ....they don't know what to do and have little familiarity with saying no.
This is the flip side of the power dynamic - men may use power and prestige when they shouldn't to get laid, but women can also take advantage of men's weakness and this is seldom acknowledge or commented on.
I don't really recommend it but it's an interesting experience, just like everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth every guy with a reason not to feels like they can reject a pretty woman coming onto them...but many fail in that moment.
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