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I wasn't even homeschooled and I arguably couldn't despite being a girl, so... (I would argue this was because I already had CPTSD from my school experience, but that's just like my opinion man.)
I agree with Throwaway05 that it's hard and getting harder. I'm homeschooling nevertheless. So I'd be interested to hear more about this. What do you mean by "normal developmental milestones"? What would you expect a girl to want to be allowed to do that would handle this? Imagining a girl who couldn't necessarily handle this on her own, what should be done for her? (The same things? What sports? Or...?)
Most of the time, girls will manage their own social lives and seek out responsibilities for themselves after a certain age. They don’t need as much structure forcing them to do these things. The tiger mom’s homeschooled daughter will be a neurotic wreck; oversheltering will have the same result. If they’re allowed to babysit and manage their schedule with their friends they’ll turn out fine. Helicopter parenting, tiger motherhood, Carry-style extreme overprotectiveness don’t go well with all that. Of course it’s not like it’s wrong to work at chic-fil-a in her teens regardless(and bosses seem to like homeschoolers).
Homeschooling does not combine well with an Asian style college admissions grindset. This is true for both sexes. But a sort of boy scouts like attitude that the entire person needs to be produced well rounded and successful rather than seeing school as something carved out as a monomaniacal min max focus tends to serve well. That tends to mean that homeschoolers need to take steps into adulthood at the normal age somewhat more importantly than kids in more institutional schooling. Delaying things like driving or high school graduation(and bright homeschoolers finish the academic parts of high school early a lot, so this comes up more often than you’d think) because it just seems better tends to have unfortunate results.
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