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Wellness Wednesday for January 1, 2025

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Similarly to South Korea I expect the lives of children to become much worse than now, a striver rat race for largely zero-sum access to status and resources that I'd be largely powerless to protect my children from

Semi-skilled blue collar work may be unglamorous but it pays a living wage. This is an effective floor on what you can access- and the deal keeps getting better for these people. Don’t be dumb. If your kids have to go into the trades or the army that’s fine and fertility trends will ensure this isn’t too terrible of a deal. You can just not have your kids do the extreme striver rat race.

Remember, the US is quite literally the wealthiest society in human history. The floor for competent people is quite high, even if you’re not the best of the best.

Semi-skilled blue collar work may be unglamorous but it pays a living wage. .... Remember, the US is quite literally the wealthiest society in human history.

This is true as of right now, but I'm not convinced that it will still be true in my child's generation. It seems likely some combination of AR/VR, robotics and immigration will eventually come for these jobs too, although definitely slower than white-collar ones. As I mentioned in my other comment though, it does seem unlikely that both blue-collar work can be economically unviable and that the west is insufficiently prosperous to keep everyone fed and housed at least, so I should probably be less neurotic on that point.

You can just not have your kids do the extreme striver rat race.

I think this is directionally true, but I think it's generally very difficult to suppress the instinct to want to give your children everything you can.

In some ways it was easier for my parents because they barely had anything and thus considered keeping me alive and out of prison a success, but now I have some level of optionality it's really hard to suppress the instinct that I should provide for my children as much as humanly possible. I suppose I did turn out wildly beyond my father's expectations despite everything so perhaps I should be less concerned about this.

Thanks for responding, you've given me some things to consider.

I mean, that’s fair- you want your kids to turn out well.

But PMC strivers seem to turn out badly? They’re miserable and lonely. Who says human flourishing has to be determined by the numbers in your bank account or the trips you take? America is a wealthy enough society that being mediocre is still getting by very well. There’s no need for a rat race to be in the top 5% when it ruins the rest of your life.

But PMC strivers seem to turn out badly?

While I agree that the QoL floor for someone reasonably competent in the West is in absolute terms a good deal, it seems quite obvious to me that the winners of the PMC striver game live, on average, relatively superior lives to those who lose such games and that this disparity is likely to increase with time. Real wages have been flat for decades in most industries, pretty much only PMC's have actually seen notable real wage growth. The fact that most people have decent lives is because the absolute pie of American prosperity is so large, not because they're getting similar percentages that they got in the past.

  • Working conditions are generally better for successful strivers: while the process of getting there is perhaps unenviable, there's many winners who end up in highly paid sinecures while the losers end up serving at the pleasure of their bosses in much worse conditions.
  • Those numbers in your bank account, even if never used for consumption, represent a level of material security that most people don't have access to. The modal American is fucked if they get a cancer diagnosis and can't work for a year: this isn't as much of a problem for a PMC with enough money to live off savings while doing chemo, and enough human capital to find another job after having sat out of the labour market for some time.
  • While I think luxury and conspicuous consumption is highly overrated, there's many life improvements resistant to the hedonic treadmill that are disproportionately available to the PMC class e.g positional access to real estate to improve the commute, outsourcing unpleasant labour, and access to elective healthcare procedures. While some of these will become more accessible as productivity improves, positionally desirable land and access to the time of other people is always going to be zero-sum and disproportionately available to those with more resources and status.
  • Status, while ghoulish to chase for its own sake, is instrumentally important: access to higher quality people and ability to influence the world is arguably even more important in a society that is likely to become more and more productive.

Yes, it's possible to over-optimize for striving: the stereotypical divorced and obese multi-millionaire MD is a sad outcome that I'd highly prefer to avoid. At the same time, it's not like the average non-striver is particularly happy or surrounded by friends in this atomised society we've created for ourselves, and there's plenty of strivers that end up rich and still have happy lives and families outside of work.

Perhaps you're right and the juice will eventually be no longer worth the squeeze: competition gets so high that it's no longer worth it to compete, and the losers still get tolerable lives in the end. That doesn't change the fact that the winners will enjoy the spoils and the proles won't.

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