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Obviously, I find things like purity balls, purity rings, “rules for dating my daughter” t-shirts, “pointedly-gun-cleaning-in-front-of-the-boyfriend rituals” to be colossally cringe. However, from those would be a massive leap to Fritzi-maxxing.
And I too find Trump’s comments and actions toward his daughter to be weird and cringe. I’m slightly, somewhat surprised that anti-Trumpers have not attempted to make more hay out of this over the past few years, but they also likely feel a bit handcuffed since Hunter and Beau Biden are eskimo brothers, and thus don’t want to work the incest angle too hard.
I have attended many weddings in my adult life, but thankfully I’ve been spared from witnessing such cringe. If/when a daughter gets married, at her wedding I’ll likely be thinking “thank goodness this is finally someone else’s problem.”
That being said, this general phenomenon (not wanting your teenaged or young adult daughter to get fucked outside of marriage) is hardly limited culturally, temporally, geographically. For example, in some parts of Latin America, teenaged boys or young men will sometimes call the fathers of their attractive female acquaintances “suegro” in person; this is perceived as impolite and disrespectful, and said fathers will often seethe.
“Suegro” just means “father-in-law,” although sometimes it can be used to refer to father of unmarried boyfriend or girlfriend. Thus, it’s not inherently gross or sexual in and of itself.
However, why does such a father seethe and react as if the teenaged boy or young man referred to his wife as “novia” (girlfriend) or “esposa” (wife)? Shouldn’t it be a compliment that a teenaged boy or young man finds your daughter desirable?
Does the father just secretly want to fuck his daughter? Or is he reacting as most men across time and cultures would do, in having an instinctive disgust response to his daughter potentially getting fucked outside of a committed, lifetime relationship (which these teenaged boys and young men presumably do not intend on providing)?
Sloot I'm not going to lie the thought of you having a daughter seems like the premise for a sitcom.
Such a thought has been expressed to me both online and in real life. It does sound kind of funny, that me getting burdened with a daughter would be some form of comedic, karmic justice.
However, I’ve had both various younger and older female family members visit and crash at my place for an extended period of time, without me needing to thot-patrol. Many of the younger ones I’ve spent quite a few hours/days babysitting when we were younger; vice versa for the older ones. I’ve also had both various younger and older male family members visit and crash at my place. And clearly, as a child, teenager, and young adult, I’ve visited and crashed at my older family members places various times.
Thus, such a sitcom would probably be more boring than expected.
Alas, my image of you as a modern-day Don Quijote is tarnished.
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