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hire someone like todd v if you can spend thousands a night, I know people who have worked with him and he is very likely the best dating coach in the world who also lives in New York. Never take roids, definitely do not go for a surgery either. East Asian women are very receptive to non east asian dudes. I dont recommend that you move back to nyc since you dont wish to do cold approach like me and would prefer a stable girlfriend.
I wish you well, but do remember that you cannot pay your way to really good dating odds. You can improve them by increasing your self-satisfaction, having more for your kids, and moving in better circles, but not much besides that. Do pick up basic meditation whilst you are at it. As for locations, you can go out during the day or night and NYC has plenty of places for both that are fairly decent and don't even have a strict entry norm going by Todds NYC dating guide.
I commend you for doing well in life, I am trying to get there and I am 24 now. I got a harsh wake up call 3 years ago and became an ok novice at cold approach. I recommend you stay away from dating apps, human mating especially for guys works well irl, you are not your looks but that is what you reduced down to on those places. I keep these apps on my phone as a reminder to get good at math and programming stuff fast, get a job and move out asap.
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