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PaperclipPerfector  3mo ago (text post)   2355 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for December 15, 2024

Do you have a dumb question that you're kind of embarrassed to ask in the main thread? Is there something you're just not sure about?

This is your opportunity to ask questions. No question too simple or too silly.

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I’ll ask again next Sunday if I can remember.

What’s something awesome I can plan for my wife that would take 4 years to execute? I’m thinking about a big anniversary that’s about that far off, and I want to take advantage of thinking about it beforehand.

I suck at romantic gestures (I am not creative), so being willing to plan still doesn’t get my very far.

  • Do something monthly and then combine it all after 4 years and give it to her (maybe add 2 months for an even 50 months). It could be writing a little postcard, or a note, or whatever would have sentimental meaning
  • Plan and save for a luxurious trip that has symbolic importance for the two of you, like where you proposed or first met
  • Make a scrapbook or photo album for each season and write a sentence under each photo that you stick in it

I enjoy romantic gestures and I've had success with them in my decade plus of marriage, FWIW. IMHO the key is not originality, but sincerity.

My wife did something really nice for me on my 30th birthday. She reached out to many friends, family, old acquaintances and had them write a little blurb about a special memory they had of me, then she bound it into a book with lots of old pictures.

She asked a few of my friends and siblings if they could make a list of people who I knew that would be good candidates, then reached out via Facebook, etc, and hounded until she got a ton. More of maybe a 1 year plan ahead than 4 years, but it was really meaningful to me and honestly it's kind of like, a personal relic.

Have you considered asking an LLM? I bet they would give great ideas, plus you can personalize it by providing extra info.

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