The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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I haven't done this, but you could consider building a regular exercise habit with her over 3 months or so and then encouraging her to exercise alone (and telling her why; eg that you want her to learn how to do it alone as you won't always be there to bring her). Like you, I think a habit (system) is better than a target.
Otherwise, consider if weight gain will be a deal-breaker in your relationship and do it early before you get married/join finances/have a child together. By weight gain I mean eventual long term descent into chronic obesity, not temporary weight gain from having a child. This might seem hyperbolic, but its a much harder issue to deal with later in a long term relationship or life partnership. Might as well stare it in the face sooner rather than later.
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