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Wellness Wednesday for December 11, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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If you just aren't getting hard in the first place. Try the ole Netflix and chill. Just snuggle up and watch a show or movie together. Ease into things. Lots of foreplay while still watching the TV. Hands all over each other. Enjoy your partner's body without the prospect of immediate sex.

If you get rock hard and and switch to sex, victory. If not then you did a fun activity together, still a win.

You might have to explain the game to your partner before starting. Just so they don't go rushing you.


I've not had ED issues before, but this is what I've done after the sex has ended and the feeling of closeness and sexual attraction is still there. Sometimes it leads to round two or three even if I get soft between sessions.