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I see your point, but to extend the metaphor further, I feel like a man who marries a woman without knowing her full sexual history is a bit like a man who buys a used car without giving the tyres so much as a cursory kick - caveat emptor and due diligence has to kick in somewhere. Of course people can lie and keep secrets, but if you know someone well enough to consider marrying them it should be fairly obvious that there's something they're keeping from you, unless they're a truly consummate (so to speak) liar.
On the other hand, many pornstars have a fairly brief career under a stage name and then retire and go into teaching or something. There's a recurring scandal when a primary school discovers that one of their teachers used to be a porn star and fires her (e.g.). For obvious reasons, the porn industry is keen on insulating porn actors from the social consequences of pursuing a career in the industry: some guy compiled a database of porn actors and their real names (so that men could find out if their girlfriend had ever done porn before they popped the question), and Bang Bros bought it for the express purpose of shutting it down.
Perhaps this "one and done" approach is less viable in the OnlyFans era, but still, I have to assume that a significant proportion of "content creators" are performing under stage names. Many even film their videos in such a way that their faces aren't visible.
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