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Again, stop pretending to miss the point.
"Nazi" is not the same as "liar," and you know I do not think "Nazi" is the same as "liar," and you are not LOLing.
I took two very common generalizations we actually see, by way of illustrating the point. If I thought you honestly needed something with exact moral equivalence, I'd come up with more closely-matched pairs, like "Nazi/groomer" or "liar/misogynist" or whatever. But (1) this would be pointless, you'd just pedantically argue the equivalence; (2) it's not necessary, you didn't really miss the point.
You got the point.
Don't tell me I'm not LOLing. I just woke up my sick wife with my LOLing, and the dog too. I LOLed in a deep, throaty way, from deep in my gut. It was the LOL of a man deeply satisfied, and you can't take that away from me.
Edit; I mean, seriously. If you are about to mod in so silly and unserious a fashion, so much so you can already anticipate how I'll object (because it's true), but you plow on ahead anyways, and then you get all butthurt for your deserved mockery, just hang up your hat dude. You're cooked.
I wasn't about to mod you, and as much as you wish it were so, I don't get "butthurt" by your tantrums. That said, unless you are trying to get modded so you can feel more persecuted, editing in personal attacks makes it a lot harder to treat you as having (another) bad day.
Blowing up being called "silly" and getting laughed at into a "personal attack" is textbook butthurt. I don't make the rules.
Do you know what projection means?
It's when you very obviously and visibly engage in embarrassing behavior, and you try to salve your ego by accusing your interlocutor of doing what you are doing.
You are blowing up. You are being silly. You are butthurt.
I am pointing this out, not because I take pleasure in "No you"s, but because I am responding to you as a courtesy. Such courtesies, trying to explain to someone why they are going off the rails, are almost always a mistake, and will certainly be a mistake in this case. But I do it because when you are not blowing up and throwing tantrums, I actually enjoy your posts.
So I still now and then waste my time trying to explain to you why certain posts get modded. Note that I had no intention of modding you in this thread and didn't threaten it, and then you had to start whining and trying to play schoolyard "I totally got you! I got you! I did I did admit it!" games, and still I am not modding you because no, I really don't look for chances to do so, I look for chances to not mod you, and the times you get modded are a fraction of the number of times people report you and ask us to mod you.
I know this is very quokka-like of me, I am engaging in good faith with someone who is engaging in bad faith, and my charity is wasted. Hope springs eternal, however, that you will learn, stop pretending not to understand the rules, and stop being modded so you can post more of the things I like and less of the things that make me sigh and ask the other mods, "How long this time?"
Well, that last part is a bit of a lie. Hope doesn't spring eternal. It's about gone.
You took a simple exchange that could have been instructive (or you could at least have either asked reasonable questions, or civilly disagreed), and instead here you are once again thumbing your nose and taunting like a little boy on the playground, almost as if you want to be modded. It reminds me of those videos of Karens freaking out and turning a misheard word into a fistfight.
You really don't have to be like this.
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