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This is a long shot. It it. Old be a little bit of a test (likely unconscious) of commitment / leadership / low expectations.
Have you told her confidently and not whiney that you want to make it work. Or even asked her to stay (explicitly for the relationship)
If you really think she could be the person you end up with, at least give it that shot. ‘Hey, I really like what we have. I want to give this a real shot. Let’s make this work.’
Cut out the casual stuff either way. It’s all in or all out dude. Everything else is a waste of time. And if she’s willing to be a time waster and your not willing to be a leader, it’s bad for both of you
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