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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 11, 2024

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Point remains if a parent makes a mistake they'll usually by wrecked with guilt

I'm not talking about mistakes but conflicts of interests; 'parent has ideology with which child does not agree, makes decision based on that ideology, causes suffering to child, refuses to consider that they may have been wrong.'

So it just so happens that this blog post was talking about the exact same drug

That'll larn me to skim the article -- I thought they were talking about surgery!

In the case of puberty blockers, I would only intervene insofar as to ensure that the child and parents had at least heard the counterargument to their proposal; I could see applying the same argument to gender transition.

If you want to live in platonic / marxist utopia where all children belong to the state

Again, children aren't property. Not belonging to their parents doesn't mean that they must belong to someone else, it means that they belong to themselves; whatever authority we give to parents starts from zero even if it doesn't stay there.

If you actually believed that this means parents have no authority over their children, you'd be quoting Rousseau, not the American founding fathers.

I was quoting the Declaration as opposition to the divine right of kings.

"As above, so below" was the extrapolation to the divine right of parents.

Yes, that's my point. If you were advocating pure libertarianism, I could consider your idea of removing all authority from parents, and ensuring the child's autonomy. But since you don't, the idea is completely absurd to me.

The idea of something between 'pure libertarianism' and 'status quo' is absurd to you?

If parents have no authority over their children, than an adult has even less authority over another unrelated adult.

A having authority over Bs personal decisions is not the same thing as A having authority over B's authority over C. A parent has every right to forbid their child from making unreasonable demands of their younger sibling.