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Wellness Wednesday for October 16, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

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  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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I have been taking time off to just feel like myself again, my co-founder asked me to do so since he could see my mental health worsening. Still, I am trying to read books, join a gym and see the physio. I might be making a mountain out of a molehill.

I appreciate the advice I got last week. My co-founder has been telling me to get concerta here and it takes too damn long. I met the psychiatrist second time today, she got me evaluated by the psychologist in her office, the psychologist also spoke with my parents and I have been called again in a week. I hate sending these sorta updates to my co-founder as it makes me look lazy and lethargic. I dont want to switch psychiatrists over and over again as that takes time plus most psychiatrists wanted nothing to do with ADHD stuff so sent me to this one.

My parents tried to cheer me up while I was coming back from the psychiatrists due to me being sad because of the delays, and I found that quite wholesome. My relationship with them is troubled, yet they are still my parents. 24-25 is too old to depend on your parents. I do hope that my co-founder's e-commerce gig helps me get a salary of some sort. That will be a good day when I get my first paycheck. He runs an e-commerce gig, too, so I can make money with him there.

I still feel like shit but life can be far far worse. I see people with genuinely life-altering issues in the psychiatrist's office. Good chance I have severe clinical depression too. I routinely see poor people with very bad cases of autism or down syndrome and whatnot. My mental issues have caused me problems, very real painful one though I can not imagine trading lives with the people who visit the psychiatrist's office. As long as I can get concerta and work I should be fine.

I saw some movies recently, the Oslo trilogy among them standing out. Oslo, 31 August, is a painful movie that I highly recommend; it hits way too close to home. I won't be watching any more movies for now, but I will start posting reviews of books I read and movies I watch on a substack under this name. Besides that I don't have much to add though by next week i do wish to implement some basic routine in my life like fixed bedtime, working out, reading instead of screens and meditating. As silly as it sounds, i will try to implement this stuff one at a time.

/u/Pasha made a very good point last week

I am very familiar with the backpacker/digital nomad paradise parts of 3rd world. They are often filled to the brim with 1st world losers/hustlers who are trying to do some sort of passport/living costs arbitrage (or worse). Most of these people fail but have a good time in the meanwhile. You should not try to imitate these people with your Indian passport and lack of backup funds. On the contrary, you have much better prospects as a young ambitious guy if you do the opposite move and move towards concentrations of economic activity instead of away from it.

This is spot on, most are not just losers financially but dating wise too, passport bros.

My main aim now is to get a source of income going (e commerce stuff) and get job ready. If I can help build a product from scratch that is deployed, i can increase my chances of landing remote jobs and then slowly work from there and still try to start my own startup. One step at a time.

Another person asked me why I post here. I post mostly because I have no one to talk to back home. Most people I know wanted different things in life, after a while it became harder for me to talk to them. People here cannot think beyond the small city, they cannot think of a world beyond India sure there are some really smart folks who have similar beliefs as me, they are not be found here since they left, like I would leave the moment I can. Posting here is a way for me to vent out stuff. I am not ready to give up on myself yet. I hope by next weeks update, I will get some meds.