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Ah yes, the old "I'm throwing away my entire life and moving far, far away. What? You won't come with me? What? You don't want to commit to this fiction of a relationship that I'M running away from? How dare you do this to me."
I don't know what the fuck is in the water. But in my 20's I literally dated 3 women in a row that tried to pull this shit. I was happy, had friends, a career, was a part of my local martial arts community. I'd date a woman about a year, and they'd pull what I only now recognize was a shit test. Leave absolutely everything, because they randomly decided they wanted to live in South Carolina, or Florida, or Colorado, or Georgia. No, they didn't have a job lined up. But they had a best girl friend who lived there and it sounds so fun.
Every time "If you want to go, we can break up and you can go. I'm not giving up my career, my friends and my community." The first one treated me like I was some enormous asshole for this. The second realized how this would make her look, so instead she (probably) faked a severe mental illness and created this whole fiction about how I was abusing her. All our mutuals were scared of her once all was said and done, and she'd fictionalize events they were there for and knew to be false. The third complained to the end of our days that I didn't "let" her move.
A more homely buddy of mine has only had two relationships, and one of them pulled the same move on him. Up and moved to bumfuck nowhere corn state for seemingly no reason, and dragged him through months of anxious long term relationship before "they" just faded away. Then she moved back. The relationship was dead as a doornail though.
I blame romantic comedies. That shits worse than weebs who think Anime is real.
I’m firmly of the persuasion that in all honesty you absolutely shouldn’t move with a person that you’re not full on engaged to. And personally I think you make a clean break of it as quite often LDRs are more theoretical than real without a very strong and exclusive relationship (AKA actually engaged with ring and date).
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