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My own experience with men and women who are in their 30s or 40s and single is remarkably consistent: men can talk about whatever mundane bullshit and usually hone in on one topic autistically for the night, but every single woman will at one point bring up their current dating situation even if we were not talking about it at all or were meant to be talking about something else.
I'm not the one who asks! I'm the unfuckable married friend, but that apparently makes me One Of The Girls and a sounding board for their current Life Situation. I wanted to hear about their fucking startup or their moms health or whatever, not their struggle with Hinge and their absolute failure to click with any girls on the apps.
Political lesbianism is advertised as an easy way for girls to avoid confronting the reality of their rapidly declining age-correlated attractiveness in the heterosexual dating market, but that doesn't change the fact that dating women is HARD for men or women. Liking tits isn't enough to be lesbian, you have to like spending time with a women with the background prospect of sex being present somewhere, and that just shorts their decision making heuristics.
It may be entirely possible for humans to exist without pair bonding or meaningful relationships. There may be men and women both decrying the necessity of relationship building to begin with, but the ratio of women versus men trying desperately to force themselves to be gay is noticably disproportionate. Simply replacing dicks with clits isn't quite the easy solution to socialized expectations generated by their own gender.
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