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On that we agree then. What I object to is the framing of this being the result of what women "want", I don't believe it is.
That people are less satisfied than even under the previous bad system should be a massive wake up call.
That's only if you believe either reporting of life satisfaction in 2024 or 1954 (or whenever you think women would be happier if they just accepted it was their lot in life) is actually good data.
Instead I should just invent data that conforms to my preferred reality?
I look at the actual actions of people, which show that women aren't freely choosing the option of having more kids and working less, when they have the option instead of just working and having fewer children, even in societies giving far more direct help than the US does.
Yes, in the cases of well-off people, they can do that, because again, they can pass the cost when it comes to time and energy of raising children to other people, like well-off people have forever, but that's impossible for the modern American middle class, unless ironically, we import like 30 million immigrants to work at the equivalent of 1889 Irish nursemaid wages.
But even then, from what I've read here and other places, that still basically exists in India for middle class women and birthrates are dropping there as well.
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