The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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In my not-entirely unrelated experience, the first thing to do with fighting parents is to be very clear what is, and is not, in your control. You cannot have a strong effect on your parents' relationship; you can't make them stop fighting or make them start liking each other. What you can do is behave honourably towards them both and give them both at least one loving family relationship. Focus on making it clear to both that you love them both, and that because you love them you will not be taking sides, betraying confidences, or nodding along while one belittles the other to you.
Secondly, at the risk of being callous and mistaken...
This is pretty much life in your 20s for lots of people. Certainly it describes my early 20s pretty well, and I wasn't disabled at all, just shy and with few good friends. The majority of people don't have huge life goals, they just muddle along doing whatever seems vaguely amusing at the time until they die. Not saying this is a good thing, just that you shouldn't beat yourself up for not being a Steve Jobsian ubermensch and I think that you should think about your disability less. Being human is hard, but that's normal. You're not cursed to misery forever because you're disabled.
I feel the same way, often. I'm still trying to figure it out, but I think that this is more a disease of the body than the mind. Light exercise (the kind that really doesn't take a lot of will, just a walk for an hour outside with an audiobook or equivalent) seems to help a lot. Counterintuitively, I think the flow is exercise -> energy -> will rather than the other way around. Expecting a little bit more from your body will make it squeeze a little bit more out, and that's a positive feedback loop.
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