The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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One thing that I've found to be very important, that isn't discussed very much, is that one of the most important parts of sex for women is to be desired. Women really want to be desired, to the point that it's often at least as important as physical pleasure. If you worry too much about how you're doing you're not going to be projecting desire of her, you're going to be projecting insecurity.
Women can be perfectly happy with sex ending prematurely (as long as there has been enough foreplay so that it isn't painful) if you clearly and visibly desired her and enjoyed having sex with her.
What I'm trying to say is that one of the most important parts of her enjoying having sex with you is you enjoying to have sex with her.
Lastly, it's really hard to give advice when you're not telling us what's going wrong. Is it painful for her? Do you come prematurely? Is she just bored? What is it that isn't working?
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