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Oh I don't mean just the chinese women still in KL. Shitloads of them have escaped to Australia, UK and US, with larger numbers here in Singapore. Of my familial circles about 30% of them have married white men, and among my peers about 20% married white. There is an overwhelming bias towards overseas education in my particular social circle, so that in hindsight skews the balance. I could be overestimating based on the number of my female peers from university and work who married white and are especially irritating on social media, with an equally irritating coterie of sycophants desperately declaring their preference for a white boyfriend ("I don't see race!"), but I see plenty of my peers who studied local (NUS) and managed to lure white men to this tropical hellscape (in terms of weather). I don't claim that KL is aberrantly monoethnic in its marriage composition, but you can see much higher multiracial marriages in Singapore and Hong Kong where you would have a higher population of white single men, compared with reluctant assignees posted to KL. White women normally are followers of their husbands, with endless bitching from single white girls that the white guys are all stolen by locals.
As for the segregation in Malaysia, yea theres a shitload going on that is both obvious and hilarious. KLCC is one of the only successful malay-focused malls, and its only successful because it is the catchment for all the KLCC malays. KLCC food actually sucks balls, and the chinese malls in the area like Pavillion blow it out of the water in terms of store quality and restaurant quality. Major malay malls are the Mara chain, which have been hilarious failures due to government enforced monopsonies crippling all the vendors, and the Chinese malls like Low Yat and Midvalley have easily double or triple the foot traffic of the Mara malls or shitholes like the Times Square Berjaya. The particular flavors of Malaysian corruption as evinced in the racial mall wars are really fucking funny to delve deep into, but are tangential to this point about outmarriage rates.
Tldr you don't see the chinese girls shacking up with white men in KL because those girls play the white passport card asap. I see them more in Singapore and HK because Singapore and HK are not necessarily worse than white countries for life outcomes, hence the delaying or even refusal to play the white passport card, and this observation is even without statistically breaking down my own social groupings.
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