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Wellness Wednesday for August 7, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Ironic we just had this discussion about you, in particular, and how close you are to getting a permaban.

I don't really want to ban you over a fairly low-level spat where you and @TowardsPanna are just kind of sniping at each other, but it's completely unnecessary. You are basically telling him "I don't believe you" (which you're allowed to do) but then expanding on that by presuming to tell him that his entire experience is manufactured and fake. Denying his "lived experience," as it were.

And you know, maybe you're right. You could be. Maybe he's never had these interactions and he's just mining CW points.

Otoh, you're clearly spoiling for a fight with anyone who posts things you disagree with and you feel like needs to be told.

There's a fine line between "I don't believe you, that seems implausible to me" and "You're making this up because you're a paranoid."

You seem to get online mostly to shitpost and fight, and the sad thing is you are clearly capable of putting effort into your posts and your arguments, but mostly you just want to dunk on people. You do not approach conversations with any level of consideration, or any acknowledgment that you could be wrong about something - you just know you're right and you're here to spew truth.

That's very annoying, but being annoying and abrasive isn't against the rules in itself. Flat-out telling people they are making things up and doubling down is.

Take another three day ban. I'm feeling generous, but next time I or another mod probably won't be because the fact that every time you return we end up here is wearing on all of us.