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I think so, although it probably requires a broader definition of socon than Christians would often use. There's a lot of Indian conservative culture that, while not perfectly overlapping for what it things the Golden Path is, still shares a large agreement on what the common 'degenerate' forms are. Sikh religious doctrine actually have more overlap than most people expect, modulo the underpants, to the point where a lot of Westerners flinch pretty hard when finding out. And Islam and Mormon (though Mormons consider themselves Christian) groups have their own versions.
This varies a bit depending on who you're talking with and what 'deviant' behavior. Monogamy (and avoiding sex before marriage) is one thing that clearly follows the path you line out. On the other hand, condoms are, rather infamously, something very few people develop kinks for (and when they do, it's often in contexts Catholics wouldn't want anyway) or enjoy. No matter how the longer-term personal benefits, there's a lot of reason that there's so much 'wrap it up' encouragement. Religious takes on male homosexuality are closer to your position, but Borderer views often devolve into it being at best easy (uh, for the top), but not particularly attractive or desirable except in the no-other-port-in-a-storm-but-a-goat sorta way, and there's a small faction of often-agnostic or atheist socons that give very sad tales about how porn caused them to downslide from vanilla straight sex into a series of perversion they'd never had even glimpsed at years before. And very few people get accidentally slide into a dress, makeup, and set of high heels without some external examples beforehand, or into a fursuit.
But I do admit these are just difference in framing: the line between superstimulus and temptation is a matter of view. Nobody likes condoms, but they like being pregnant or paying child support even less; as a bi furry I'll absolutely say that there's a lot of surprisingly benefits to both.
It's not so much "having a kink for condoms" and more "condoms enable you to have consequence-free sex which is bad because
something something natural lawyou might discover that consequence-free sex means the relationship with your spouse is dominated by sex for the sake of sex than for other more productive reasons".This isn't really a position I hold natively; my views on sex/uality are a lot simpler than average (since they kind of avoid the question entirely), especially because...
...being one of those people gives some [from what I can tell] unique advantages for introspection about those sorts of things. (Communicating that introspection effectively is an entirely different story, though.)
Fair, and sorry for wrongly attaching the position to you.
To be fair, I did successfully hold that position for many years until I fully realized (or rather, had it pointed out to me) that I was, in fact, faking it.
(Which is kind of the problem when I simulate the standard traditionalist or progressive viewpoints, because to re-derive them I have to start with "first, assume self-interest, then" in places it's not "supposed" to belong.)
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